5 Ways to Reclaim Your Calm & Happiness

Do you find yourself waking up in the morning and feeling a sense of monotony and unfulfilment that seems to suck all the joy out of you?

Or do you wake up and immediately start to feel stressed and worried as your mind starts to run through all the things you have to do and all the expectations you have to meet?

You might have a morning self-care routine, where you workout or meditate, but even that can feel forced, or you do it on auto-pilot whilst your mind runs through a million other things.

You might also find yourself trying to doing multiple things at the same time in an attempt to save time and be more productive, only to find that it makes you less focused and efficient.

It’s easily done. 

But I’d like to remind you of something…

There are always going to be new tasks to complete, new emails and notifications to attend to, new bills to pay, new things to buy, new things to fix and so on and so on.

So we can either choose to experience an underlying current of stress, worry and unfulfilment for the rest of our lives…

Or…

We can choose to take a step back and decide that we’re not going to let this negativity take away our happiness….or take over our whole lives.

Here are 5 ways to break that negative cycle and reclaim your calm and happiness:

1. Snap out of auto-pilot and keep returning to the present moment e.g. by being aware of your breath and your physical senses (which are always happening right now).

2. Stop trying to do 5 things at the same time, and instead just focus on ONE thing at a time, no matter how trivial it is. For added motivation and/or time management, set a timer or put some music on in the background – yes, that one is allowed 😉

3. Stop waking up with a frown or an unhappy sigh, and purposefully choose to smile and feel grateful that you are here, alive, safe and warm in your comfortable bed and home, and it’s a new day, and you get to choose how you approach it and…(Keep going until you feel complete!) Sidenote: smiling sends a reassuring message to the brain that ‘all is well!’

4. Catch yourself when you let your stress, worry or self-pity take over and instead choose to acknowledge it, zoom out from it and remind yourself that it’s not serving you (or anyone else you interact with), and that it’s not worth it. Ask yourself an empowering question such as, ‘How can I reframe this?’ or ‘How do I want to feel right now and what will help me cultivate that feeling?’

5. Stop convincing yourself that you’re stuck (in your job, relationship, routine, health condition etc) and realise that you can initiate the change you need to improve your situation. Choose to accept where you are right now (instead of resisting it), get clear on where you want to be, determine your next best steps towards it and start prioritsing those steps each day or week (consistent baby steps lead to great results!)

Over to you:

What speaks to you the most here? Let me know in the comments below 🙂

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