The Secret Balance to True Self-Care

Let’s talk about daily self-care rituals.

Clearly, the beauty of having daily self-care rituals in your life is that they ensure the most effective and consistent results. Whether they set you up for the day, support you to be your best self, bring you joy and satisfaction or help you to wind down, you know that they serve you in some way.

Currently, my daily non-negotiables are:

  • Cooking and preparing healthy meals, involving a wide variety of nutrients
  • Moisturising my face every morning and applying serum at night (both natural products)
  • Turning my phone on airplane mode before going to sleep to reduce EMF exposure (electromagnetic frequencies are EVERYWHERE and are invisibly interfering with our body’s natural rhythms and frequencies)
  • Reading or listening to inspiring authors and speakers; learning new things

Nevertheless, there are many other self-care rituals and habits that I value greatly and that I try to incorporate regularly in my life but that tend to require a bit more effort on my part to do them consistently. These include:

  • Yoga practice and/or some form of exercise
  • Meditation
  • Drinking plenty of water
  • Reflecting on what I feel grateful for
  • Exfoliating and moisturising my body
  • Stretching after waking up and after sitting down a long time
  • Preparing and drinking a digestive tonic before breakfast
  • Getting outside and grounding (having bare foot contact with the ground/sea)
  • Repeating affirmations
  • Connecting with loved ones without distractions
  • Getting to bed on time
  • Connecting with nature
  • Journaling
  • Taking actions steps towards my goals
  • Eating mindfully without looking at my phone or computer

These are all things I care about and that I know enrich my life. So when I don’t make them a consistent part of my life, I can sometimes feel guilty or frustrated, especially when I hear about the daily rituals of thriving and inspiring leaders in the field of wellness. But what I’ve come to realise is that there is also beauty in being able to surrender to whatever your mind, body and soul require each new day and in each moment. It’s about establishing a balance.

Sometimes you’re going to feel energetic, other times tired. There’ll be days where you feel motivated to plan and create; and days when you want to relax or be entertained. Sometimes you’ll feel like talking and sometimes like being quiet or alone. There’ll be days when you’re super efficient and have lots of free time afterwards and days that have been busy or stressful and you don’t feel like cooking or staring at another screen. There’ll be days where you’re in a new environment and unable to access certain things and days where you have to be more flexible and able to deal with unexpected events.

It’s normal to experience these changes.

That being said, having just a few daily non-negotiables can really make a difference. They are the things that you don’t even question, you just do them out of love and care for yourself (it’s usually the ones that you do first thing in the morning or last thing at night that are the easiest to maintain). The rest you can continue to be mindful of, and to incorporate in your life as much as possible but without beating yourself up if you skip a few days or weeks.

I do realise that many people feel too busy to even think about establishing such rituals. If this is you, please know that practising daily self-care rituals does not make you selfish or self-indulgent. In fact, it does the very opposite. It nurtures and nourishes you so that you can think, feel and act your best which in turn benefits everyone and everything around you. You have to fill yourself up first in order to shine your light onto the world.

What are your daily non-negotiables? If you feel inspired to incorporate some new ones in your life, take it one at a time so you don’t overwhelm yourself. Commit to it until you feel it becomes an effortless part of your day and lifestyle. Your future self will thank you!


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